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Women & Weed: We Be Jammin (By @AujaBomaye)

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So I’m chilling the other day, right? Getting in my zone; had just started floating from an incredible edible high,  about to take a ride and cop some eats when I had this crazy epiphany of sorts.  You know how they say everything is better on weed? (weedheads. Only weedheads say this) Now while this, admittedly, is one of the ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Men ….. at HENNYPALOOZA (By @SerenaAlfaro)

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If you were in Los Angeles at the end of March, you were at Hennypalooza. Since I was there and I wasn’t sure what to expect besides Henny and a palooza, I’ve gathered some advice. Here’s some tips for the ladies on attending Hennypalooza and how to deal with opposite sex when you get there.  You’re Getting Hit On Like ... Read More »

Are “Big Girls” Dateable? (By @Dabst1eva)

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As a woman I have struggled with the ups and downs of my weight throughout the years. But, as a plus size woman in the dating arena I find myself running across some very shallow men who are comfortable engaging in sexual acts with a plus size woman but not quite comfortable dating them. So that raised the question, “Are ... Read More »

Give The Poet Some: @DarthVenn

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I Forgive you I forgive you. For the pain you inflicted, for the nights I spent crying over you. For the insecurities you gave me, for the memories you lit on fire.    For the mistakes you made that I   apologized for. For the friendship you turned into a nightmare. For the nights I spent up wondering what was wrong ... Read More »

The Mental Hospital: How To Accept and Deal With Being Alone (By @DarthVenn)

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I truly believe that majority of people’s biggest fear is being alone. I don’t need statistics to even call this one out. People feel as if being alone is the worst hand you can be dealt. Well, I’m here to discuss why being alone is not the worst thing in the world and what to do while you’re “alone”.  I put ... Read More »

Cardi B For President (By @GabGotti)

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In case you missed it, Cardi B. was in rare form on the LHHNY reunion Monday night. She draggedddddddd Peter to the end of the earth and back. Of course Black Twitter had various perspectives on the subject. You had your hoteps who think that Cardi is a hoe and therefore aren’t willing to hear anything that she said. You ... Read More »

Give The Poet Some: @Erogenous_Storm

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Invitation You see how slavery is more organized ? And game is more strategic to epitomize the social life of my God given right to birth , and be wives. But see, you need an INVITE to insult me you need an invite to impress me You need an invite to belittle me You need an invite to define me ... Read More »

The Mental Hospital: Mental illness, Family & Friends (By @DarthVenn)

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I think one of the hardest parts of dealing with mental illness is explaining and dealing with it among family and friends. Everyone has an opinion, often an ignorant one. Meanwhile, you’re two feet from the deep end. Let’s start off with the reactions from oblivious friends. “Look on the bright side” “Just be happy”. Ignore them or educate them. ... Read More »

The Mental Hospital: Introduction (By @DarthVenn)

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I’m Venny.  You may know me from many situations and catastrophes. I’m excited to join the cool table as a genuine nerd who always walked by the real one. Let’s get to the dirt of my soul. I’m 24, a writer,  I deal with a few mental illnesses including anxiety,  bipolar depression,  BPD,  and a reoccurring heartache with a indie ... Read More »

Give The Poet Some: @AujaBomaye

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You Are I thought of you and had to write this down. I couldn’t hold it in a second longer. If I didn’t say it, right now, how would you know? I couldn’t stand the idea of it; you walking around this earth not knowing. How I feel for you; what you do to me. What you are to me. ... Read More »

Dad vs Stepdad (By @Dabst1eva)

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In light of Ciara’s recent engagement to Russell Wilson and Future’s reaction to their engagement it raised a few questions. Why do most men feel that the new man in their child’s life needs to take a back seat on the parenting of the child? Especially when he is actually going to be the more permanent father figure of the ... Read More »

I Need Feminism (By @Turoxshakur)

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I have been on the fence about feminism for a very long time. I even wrote a piece titled “I am not a feminist” which, of course, was a joke aimed towards the radical timeline feminists of today’s social media. I always felt that it was unnecessary to actually be a feminist; I found feminism to be annoying. Sorry world, ... Read More »

What Do I Bring To The Table? (By @dabst1eva)

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In dating and relationships we have so many things that we just want to be perfect if not perfect but very close to it. We all want the picket fence, the 2.5 kids, and a great career. So before all that comes about we have this grand list of expectations or things we would like to have in a partner. ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Women Pt. 41 (By KevM3)

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You realize as you get older that all of the investment you put into women can disappear in the blink of an eye. You put in all of that effort, you got her attention, then for whatever reason she gets bored and disappears. All of that work for nothing. Put your time into things that actually will give you a ... Read More »

The difference between support and tolerance in friendships with people with mental illness (By @DarthVenn)

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Trust me, there is a difference. If you are friends with someone with a mental illness there will be days where you don’t understand them, or can’t reach them. Days where your heart breaks for them. Days where you may wonder if your friendship is even much to them. (yes, that’s sad to say). Sometimes your friend will have downs ... Read More »

The Game is the Game (By @Love_Jab)

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It seems like every time I turn around I hear about what women need to do to be chosen, what we need to accept as norms, how to freak your man (to keep your man), blah blah blah. I mean, I understand some of that. I know that majority of these ideas are culturally constructed- meaning that they change with ... Read More »

The Part Fear Plays In Suffering (By @TinySmalls)

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This is one of those things we aren’t supposed to talk about. It’s only acceptable to talk about suffering in the context of a greater good. It’s only acceptable to hurt in ways that your audience has before. Mainly so they can understand, so they aren’t afraid of you. Writers aren’t the only people who fear losing an audience because ... Read More »

Consistent Actions Makes Things Happen (By @RedHands)

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What does it mean to be consistent? What are some things that are consistent in your life? Did you know we have to be consistent in order to survive? How consistent are you in your life? Many of us can be very consistent in one aspect, and not so much in other aspects. Let’s look into how consistency is the ... Read More »

Don’t Make Me Like You (By @amoreSTEPH)

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When you’re as observant as I am and as hopeless of a romantic as I am, you tend to go about dating differently than most. By the time I’ve approached you – because I do tend to be the one doing the approaching – I’ve learned enough about you for me to conclude that this could be a match, so ... Read More »

Quick Gems Dealing With Men Pt. 4 (By @SerenaAlfaro)

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I’ve been in a number of relationships, friendships, and “it’s complicated-s” in my life. Naturally, some men are starters, others come off the bench, but some are fine being on the practice squad. I’ve accumulated a wealth of knowledge about dealing with the opposite sex, but for some reason, it’s still hard to deal with me. This is just a ... Read More »

Give The Poet Some: D__Poet

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“Leftovers” Always aimed to be amicable.. Even avoided ways that would damage you.. But how could we ever stand up to.. Standards that were never true.. Just felt like a force when I said I loved you too.. Which hurts cuz I never trusted you.. So much weight made it uncomfortable.. Made me feel fake when I’d try to comfort ... Read More »

Give The Poet Some: @PaulTheEsquire

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“Poem Of You” I took time to unwind my mind and decided to read another poet’s work today. It was amazingly riveting, each word carefully sculpted and took the image of this goddess. This….intricate process that progressed into syllables and verses to a song that I never heard and now fear that I will never hear again. As if the ... Read More »

Stop letting society box you in and live your life (By @The_Kp_Show)

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Kanye West’s latest album “The Life of Pablo” is another notch on the creative belt for one of the most innovative artists of our time. The album has struck up some good conversation between myself and some other astute folks as to why we don’t branch out and aspire to be something we are passionate about. “People get so scared ... Read More »

How Meditation Helped Me Grow Up (By @Dolo_DeOn)

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I had been three years into my alcohol addiction before I realized I had a problem/disease or whatever you want to call it. In my mind, I thought I was just being fun and cool not just because it’s what I had bouncing into my skull this whole period. But I also felt fun and cool to be the one ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Single Moms (@TonyTuss)

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*Disclaimer: I’m not glorifying being a single mother, I wouldn’t dare disrespect #TheWoke* Some men look at single moms as having baggage and others can look past the kid. I’ve been on both sides of the fence, sometimes a kid was a deal breaker and other times I pushed the stroller like Russell Wilson. Anyway here’s a few gems on ... Read More »

The Space between Execution & Emptiness (By @sirwillyum)

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On a large spectrum there are two polar opposites: Execution and Emptiness. One beautifully poetic and perfect side of the spectrum is Execution. Once you reach the end of the line, you then discover a room. This room is filled with successful people, from all walks of life, who attained the highest level of success in their respective field. At ... Read More »

Black Women’s Hair & Exercise (By @ZeusOfQLF)

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In the last couple years we’ve seen the resurgence of black women embracing their natural hair; whether kinky, straight, short, or long and I for one am a fan, but with this movement of black women rocking their natural hair out comes the anger of sweating it out-in the gym. Every week I’m on the receiving end of death threats ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Men Pt. 3 (By @AujaBomaye)

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I was asked to finesse and speak my lil piece on the unstable creatures otherwise known as the male species… Lord have mercy, it took me an entire week to get my mind right so that this post would be more than me having written “Idk bruh, y’all are confusing” 1000 times. I get y’all but I don’t. You all ... Read More »

You’re single because you’re boring (By @imJSanch)

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Often times we hear people say “I need someone who can grab my attention” when they’re explaining why they are single.  We have this fascination about finding someone who is more exciting than the last episode of How To Get Away With Murder as if relationships are a way to avoid paying for cable. If you just go to work, ... Read More »

Dear Cam Newton: A Love Letter (By @GabGotti)

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Dear Cam, You just lost the Superbowl. I know, because I watched it. I was angry that your team let you get sacked 7 times. I was angry that I didn’t get to see you dab. Angry because I knew the media would rain down all types of judgement on you – win or lose. White America’s issue with you ... Read More »

Coconut Oil Can Save The World (By @ZeusOfQLF)

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Over the last two years Coconut oil has moved up the ranks from being that product women used to control their hair and skin to being one of the leading products in health, fitness, and lifestyle. It really does fix everything, seriously, everything. Personally, I wouldn’t be surprised if this stuff is exactly what the good folks of Flint Michigan ... Read More »

Confessions Of A Condom Counter: The Lyin King (By @ToiMeetsWorld)

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THAT LOVE YOU SO GOOD I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING LIKE, “I’M ABOUT TO CREASE THE FUCK OUTTA THESE KHAKIS.”  HE AIN’T WEAR KHAKIS …… BUT THAT’S BESIDE THE POINT. I think this may have been the only person I truly ever purely loved.  Mind not clouted.  Guards all the way down.  So when the opportunity presented itself again, I ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Men Pt. 2 (By @Turoxshakur)

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Stop pillow talking Ladies, men don’t give one damn about what your best friend’s man is doing wrong to her. Of course he’s listening, but the information that you’re giving him is unnecessary, and it’s making him dangerous. Men really do talk and gossip just as much as women do. Stop telling homeboy you met three weeks ago your business. ... Read More »

Gems From The Workplace Vol 3: Black History Month (By @YoungLordSean)

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Peace brothas and sistas its the honorable prophet younglordsean aka Booker T Poppington aka Huey Newton keep the computers putting also known as The Hood Sociologist  back with Gems from the Workplace Volume 3. BLACK HISTORY MONTH EDITION I’m going to keep it short and sweet because black history month is the shortest month of the year *stay woke*.  To ... Read More »

Woe / Man vs Deez / Nuts (By @Mreeuh)

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MAY I INTEREST YOU IN A THINKPIECE? HERE YOU GO. THINK ABOUT DEEZ NUTS. no really, deez nuts was a presidental candidate, what ever happened to deez nuts? I don’t know about yalls nuts but deez nuts are still here. Rachel Dolezal became a global news story for posturing as a black woman around the same time Bruce Jenner came ... Read More »

Healthy (By @TinyySmalls)

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If you listened in on my conversations you would hear millions of apologies for things I can’t control and millions more for things I can. You’d have heard someone tell me that I do not know what a healthy realtionship is and you would have seen the frown on my face because I don’t. And though it hurt to hear ... Read More »

Take Care Of Yourself (By @CrisLex)

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Take care. Take care of yourself. Take care of you. Take care. We hear this a lot as farewells when leaving friends, as closing greetings in letters/emails, in conversations as we hang up the phone. We hear people say “Take Care of Yourself”, but do we really actually heed the words told and TAKE CARE of ourselves?  These past few ... Read More »

10 Things To Know About Dating Me (By @TinyySmalls)

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1. Don’t ask me about commitment. I’m always looking for something that means something. I value things for what they are and I know better than to constantly want more. This doesn’t mean I don’t want marriage or something like it one day. I just know that most people don’t think love can be genuine, or real, or “life changing” unless ... Read More »

Gems From The Workplace Vol. 2 (By @YoungLordSean)

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Whats good, Its Younglordsean aka the hood sociologist aka Bernie Slanders back with #GemsForTheWorkplace Volume 2.  I came back with more gems to get you employed and keep you employed off that government assistance you heard?  So chill out and take this good advice and change your tax bracket. This edition is for my unemployed job seekers trying to avoid ... Read More »

Persistence Will Get You The Distance (By @RedHands)

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Are you trying to get ahead? Do you want to go the full distance in whatever your doing? Whatever it is, persistence will get you the distance. Being persistent isn’t easy, but if your persistent enough, it’s easy to become persistent. (See what I did there) Many people that we admire and respect have great stories of persistence. Maybe it’s ... Read More »

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Women Pt. 40 (By KevM3)

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I find that a man should always be focused on something else other than women. Why? Because when you invest in other areas of your life, it actually brings a return on time spent. With a woman, she’s free to up and leave at any time and you never know when, and all of the gain from the effort you ... Read More »

Spiritual Growth & Practical Application (By @Pgoodiezz)

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“The most direct way to know love in every moment is to be love in every moment rather than to demand it from another person.” – Dr. Gabriel Cousens A seeker will spend his or her entire life on a quest for growth and on each and every one of those days, we are still human. Celebrate your internal struggles. ... Read More »

Gems From The Workplace Vol. 1 (By @YoungLordSean)

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What’s good its King Sean aka The Hood Sociologist aka Young Direct Deposit and I’m here to put you recent college grads and regular people on game.  College doesn’t teach you how to survive in a corporate environment so I said you know what I’m a hold it down and show y’all how move in the matrix they call the ... Read More »

#Sadderday: Saddest Person Of The Week (By @BBillions)

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Jesus Christ man… Broooo… Yooooo… Damnnnn… What the hell did I just read… This is crazy… Man idk dude name but he looks like a Michael so let’s just call him Mike… Damn lil Mike mike I feel ya pain… We’ve all been there but not this bad I almost appreciate how bad my ex treating me after I read ... Read More »

Charged Up For The ’16 (By @KeepItRealCole)

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I never thought I’d be talking from this perspective…  What a year it’s been. If we’ve kept in touch at all throughout this year, you might know how much of a struggle it’s been. Not because I’ve been depressed or I have major complaints about anything that happened this year, no, this year was tough because there’s been a lot ... Read More »

#Sadderday: New Year, Who This? (By @BBillions)

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After 4 years I’ve finally decided it’s time to move on and forget about my ex. It’s honestly getting old and boring and I’m tired of it. It’s over. We both moved on, we both happy, having fun and living life. Sometime you gotta know when to let go.  Honestly, if we got back together it would not be the ... Read More »

Women and Weed: New Year, New Tree (By @AujaBomaye)

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Whaddup fam… Before we jump off into this thang, I just wanna applaud you. Us. We’re facing the blunts end of another year and I know more than a few of us didn’t think we’d make it all the way through before tapping out but if you’re reading this, you did. Nigga we made it!! Be proud. Take these last ... Read More »

Time Is On Your Side (By @RedHands)

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We are all just an indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole. Actually, that is the definition of the word “Time”. Are you using your time or is your time using you?  Do you know how timing works and how to use it to your advantage? In our previous articles we learned ... Read More »

The Masquerade Is Over: Moving On (By @RedHands)

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In case you missed it, last week we talked about how you can’t solve a long term problem with short term thinking aka putting a band-aid on a bullet wound.  This week we are going to talk about what to do after you take care of your bullet wound. How does one move on from a situation and start the next ... Read More »

Don’t Tell Me What I Can’t Do (By @ClockDodgers)

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If you’re a fan of the TV series “Lost”, you already know what the title of this post is from. It was one of my favorite “Lost” moments ever as it really resonated with me. In the scene, one of the main cast members on the show (John Locke, who was crippled) was being told he could not do something ... Read More »

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