If you’ve ever found yourself chugging a glass of wine on FaceTime with your girl friend asking her that question you always ask- “Why do I always date these guys?”- then I’m here to be that friend that says, “Suck it up, you’ll thank him later.”
Everyone thats ever dated has encountered one or two “fuck boys”- or girls- for lack of a better or more relevant phrase. Why we do it? Who knows. Maybe you see the good in everybody. It could be possible that you live for projects and fixer-uppers; you think there’s nothing like a work in progress that can’t benefit from your touch. Despite all that, we shant be too harsh on ourselves ladies (& gentlemen). Whatever the reason may be, theres one thing that I do know for sure: Everything happens for a reason and we gotta thank our lucky stars for these relationships. Want to know why? Let me tell you…
We’ve all either dated: the player, the emotionally unavailable or the afraid of commitment guy (among other types). They make us eat our feelings, cry, and break our hearts. Think about the last shitty person you dated and I bet you’ll remember all the things you didn’t like. (If you’re thinking of all the good memories, you’re doing it wrong). Remembering the ‘bad’ is a helpful tool for when you begin to date again. You’ll know how you don’t want to be treated and what you won’t accept. If you dated one mediocre guy, you’ve dated a dozen. So by now you should be better at detecting red flags, as well as listening to them.
When I look back and think about the guys I’ve dated, I’m grateful for the lessons and truly don’t hold any harsh feelings at all, honestly.
Being or feeling alone is inevitable and necessary. We are always growing and always changing but lets be honest, nobody willingly turns their lives upside down for ‘change’. So this guy or girl ruined your life and now you have the space you need to reflect inward. You should look at this as an opportunity to get to know and love yourself. Aka, the glow up .
Friendly reminders: a relationship takes two so know that its not all your fault. Whether your searching or withholding closure, you can’t completely blame yourself and you can’t completely blame them.
They say you never know what you have until its gone. I prefer: How can you appreciate the good without the bad?
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