A lot of dudes wouldn’t mind helping women out if not for the attitudes of a lot of these women who actually look down on a dude helping them, and instead of appreciating it, she feels as if she’s some seductress or hustler who finessed her way into something. It’s pretty sad the lack of gratitude that can be exhibited by some people.
I believe once you establish your manhood and never deviate, a woman will get the point to stop trying to test you or she knows you’ll let her go and find someone who isn’t with the games. When you establish what is and isn’t acceptable around you, people eventually get in line, and those that don’t, you simply don’t deal with them. I think it’s natural to initially test someone to see if they are who they say they are, but if someone is continually carrying on after a reasonable introductory period, you have to keep them from around you.
The key thing is to talk to a woman without trying to ‘win’, aka get a number, do this or do that. Enjoy the conversation. Once you’re comfortable just conversing with a woman, and you see she’s comfortable around you, all you have to do is be like ‘let me get your number and we can go chill this weekend’. Keep it simple and real.
When it comes to women, they’ll treat you how you let them treat you. If you come off as weak and you let her run over you, it’s exactly what she’s going to do. These dudes that end up having everything dumped on them need to get the wake-up call. If you don’t stand up on your manhood or respect, you won’t get any from a woman. He’s doing all that and she is still nagging at him, but a dude she actually respects has to do none of that and she’ll have the sweetest personality ever. If a woman starts bring lemons into your life and making things sour, you got to tell her to sweeten that demeanor up or keep it moving. The longer you let a woman continue with the sour face in your life, the more she’s going to escalate with the bad behavior.
Don’t frame your interactions with women as ‘going on a date.’ If you come at ol girl with some ‘hey beautiful lady, I’d like to take you to dinner on friday night’, it pretty much gives the impression that you will be paying. The key is to deal with women that really like you for you, because then you’ll be able to tell a woman, “I’m going to be at the park later. You should come up and chill with me.” and she’ll be down. It’s when you deal with those women who don’t really like you too much or women who are adamant that you ‘take them on a date that will get you to try to pay. Both of these you should avoid.
There’s nothing wrong with paying for dates, but that’s AFTER she’s shown she’s down for you and really likes you. When you realize a lot of women are using these dates to get free meals, then you’ll cut back on doing that. We, as men, are not here to finance womens’ eating habits, especially when they’ll deal with another man right after eating the food you paid for. On the other hand, a woman that is genuinely into you and has no problems reciprocating… there’s nothing wrong with paying for a meal for her here and there.