God gave man the authority to be head of the household. It even tells you in the Bible no woman should have authority over a man…and yet in this modern day, how many men are comfortable deferring to a woman and letting a woman make all the choices? Is it no wonder they don’t respect men anymore? Authority is something that has to be ESTABLISHED. Just because you are a male doesn’t give you authority. What gives you authority is the ability to stand on principle and make sound decisions. Think of football and how different coaches run their organization. You have some of those ‘player coaches’ who are too buddy with the players and end up losing their respect and end up getting ran over and you have no-nonsense coaches who hold their players accountable and don’t listen to excuses. The latter may be hard on their players, but players who are winners love playing for these coaches because they want to win. We have way too many buddy buddy type of men in this day and age who are always cutting excuses for themselves and for the women they deal with and have no kind of principle and standard. Your standards, principles and the actions you take based off of them will decide much of where you end up in life.
Women ain’t going to do anything to fix your problems. Find Jesus, explore and find what you really like, etc. You really need to do some soul searching and get your mind right. At most, a woman would be a temporary cure for your boredom before you go back again. You really got to explore and see what is the root cause of you feeling how you feel.
One thing I see with a lot of this younger generation is that they may not have had a father or even if they did, their father didn’t give them any lessons about anything other than ‘get the grades in school.’ As a man, you really have to ‘get some business’ about yourself, meaning that you have things going on so that you aren’t stressing out or concerned about whether some woman is or isn’t going to show up.
We’re in a generation where it’s going to be harder and harder to make it, especially if you’re depending on corporate America to give you a job. There are so many interesting things to study, but I’m telling you now, one skill you better pick up is entrepreneurship. As men, it will be tasked to us to hold society up, so I suggest that you get ready and put your battle boots on.
Human nature is self-centered and people will typically act in a position that they believe puts them at an advantage. To be principled is to abide by some set of rules or standard in lieu of your immediate self-interest. Most people are not principled, and therefore give in to their human nature, which is selfishness.
What this essentially means is that most people these days are fielding multiple options. If you get dropped cold out of the blue, it most likely means they are more emotionally invested in someone else they were also talking to or started talking to. It’s not always the case, but it is the case many of the times. The sad thing is, it’s not easy to tell whether someone is acting in this fashion, so it’s best to assume that one DOES act in this fashion until they prove otherwise… meaning you should never get the notion that anyone will be around permanently. If someone chooses to leave, bid them well and keep it pushing in your life. Setting the proper expectations will save you a ton of drama later.
The more you have going on in your life, the less some particular woman not showing up bothers you. After you deal with three or four more flakes like that, you’ll simply say, I’m not going to waste time and effort into someone who couldn’t care less about me but just wants to play games. There are no secret methods or techniques. You simply MAKE people respect you by making them act right if they are to be in your company. The only way to do that consistently is to be strong enough mentally to be able to do without their company.
If she cheats, that’s a no-go. If it’s something like flaking once, then I’d consider it, but if she did it again, that’s it.
Everything comes down to mentality. It’s all about what you think. Even Jesus in the Bible said what is a man but his thoughts.
Now, something a lot of men get confused is that they base their mentality on how women will react to them, such as, Well, maybe if I do this, she will do that. Maybe to show her I respect myself, I will talk to her that way. With that kind of mentality, you are giving women WAY too much power. You are essentially saying that her reactions to you will dictate your actions. In essence. she is controlling you.
Your actions should be deeply rooted in some kind of principles and fundamentals. You should have business and a lifestyle that you attend to that are completely independent of how a woman is going to react to it or what she thinks about it. You are supposed to be able to have a complete life without a woman in it FIRST and then you INVITE a woman into your life given that she is respectable enough to be worthy of that designation. A lot of guys play that role of the court jester and try to entertain women or do different actions to emotionally manipulate them into a certain reaction. That’s weak. Instead, you should play the role of a king who is busy ruling his kingdom and you allow a worthy woman to have some of your time. It all comes down to a power dynamic, which essentially says I’m not going to be out here trying to impress women. They should be the ones impressing me.
Do you think one of these RnB stars got to do half the clown stuff that these guys are doing? No, the women do anything to get in their presence. Look at the Demarco Murray situation where that dude’s wife was getting with Murray.