Rule number 1. You will never get anywhere with a woman by doing stuff for her or buying her stuff.
Rule number 2. Reread rule number 1.
One of the most important rules a man needs to understand when dealing with women is that THEY DO NOT CARE WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM. They care how you make them feel. This point often never registers with a lot of guys, and they think they will incur a woman’s loyalty by paying for her school, taking her to all kinds of dinners, buying her stuff, listening to her problems, etc. But despite all that they’ve done for the woman, she leaves him for some guy who has done NOTHING for her.
If you start getting into the notion that you need to start coming off of cash and other rewards to either procure the attention of or keep the attention of some particular female, you are headed in the wrong direction. Realize that if you can’t catch and keep her off of your personality and presence, then you need to be willing to let her go… otherwise you will end up spending a ton of money and time on this woman who is planning on moving on to another guy.
That is not to say never take your woman to dinner or buy her anything. It means that if you start getting the impression that you need to do those things to make her want to deal with you, you are headed down a bad path.
“Not chasing” females doesn’t mean you’re not pursuing them, talking to them, etc… not chasing means that when she shows you she’s not feeling you, you keep on looking for new angles to keep on messing with her… not chasing also means that if you’re together and she leaves, you’re not on some ‘baby come back, I’ll do anything to have you’ tip. If you don’t show some form of aggression and pursuit with females, you won’t have none… but to ‘chase’ a woman means to degrade yourself in your pursuit of her, especially when she shows no interest.
Something EVERY man needs to realize is that longevity with women can never be guaranteed, only promoted. In other words, it means there are no magical actions you can do that will guarantee a woman will never leave… you can only do what you think will help promote her staying around, but even with you doing all of that, you still have to be prepared for her to leave at any moment… Your preparation will consist of you steadily being ‘on your game’, which is what we just discussed, so that if she leaves, you won’t have a huge void… and you should also be mentally conditioning yourself not to get overly emotional if she leaves because you are prepared for it… If you realize ahead of time that any interaction with a woman may not necessarily be permanent, you will learn to limit your emotional attachment and dependence, which will save you a lot of trouble if she peels out ahead of time. finally, you always have to analyze the woman you are with and her position in relation to yours in order to minimize what she is able to walk away with. You do not want a woman doing a ‘smash-and-grab’ and taking as much of your stuff as she can on her way out the door.